You’re probably not receiving all the love from your life that you possibly could. It’s sad but true. In fact, most of what we know about love has been misconstrued and fragmented to meaning almost nothing.

What is love?

If you asked a group of 100 people “What is love?”, you would likely get 100 different answers. Love is a feeling. Love isn’t a feeling. Love is a choice. Love is fleeting. Love isn’t real.

Out of 100 different answers, likely every single one would be wrong.

Love is energy.

Specifically, love is one energy form of many that human beings (that’s you) can both project (send out into the world) and receive (take back from the world). This might sound like a crazy concept because we can’t see love. We can only feel love. Humans have a hard time understanding things that we can’t see. And unfortunately, many of us are taught to suppress our feelings. This all results in a straight up ignorance to the potential we have at experiencing love in it’s true form.

Outside of love, there are a number of other energies humans can feel, project, and receive. Some of the lower frequency emotions include shame, guilt, jealousy, and anger. The higher frequency emotions are things like acceptance, joy, and peace. The chart below is a visual on the different possibilities and where they fall on the spectrum. For a more in depth look at this concept, I highly recommend this Ted Talk video.

You can see from this chart there are emotions that emit lower frequencies or lower amounts of energy, and as you go up the chart, more pleasant feelings are depicted by higher amounts of energy. When you’re emotionally down, you might notice that your body feels heavier or you have no motivation to do normal things. When you’re feeling emotionally good, your body also feels lighter and moving is easy. This all connects back to the level of energy each emotion has.

How is the love stopping?

Think back to yesterday or another day this week. What was the main theme of your day? Were you anxious because of the bills/tasks/dirty dishes piling up? Were you angry about that thing your ex did with the money/kids/teacher? Were you feeling guilty that you didn’t make time to work out/read/speak up like you promised?

Whichever emotion ruled your day is the energy that you will project. So, if you’re feeling guilty or angry, that’s what you’re giving out. If you’re feeling joy, then joy is what you will give out. The energy your emotion carries is what people will feel from you, even if they don’t know what they’re feeling or why.

Now, we can view each emotion as an energy, and each person is carrying some type of emotional energy at all times. Since energy isn’t seen by human eyes, I like to imagine little glowing spheres surrounding each of us. If you’re feeling really amazing, your energy sphere will be large and powerful. If you’re feeling down, your energy sphere will be small and more central to you.

Your energy sphere is always working for you.

If you’re feeling a high frequency emotion, that energy will get projected into the atmosphere looking for other loving connections. If you’re feeling a low frequency emotion, that energy is deflecting things away from you in order to avoid connections.

What all this means is: if you continue to stay anxious, guilty, angry, or jealous, your energy will continue to deflect or DISSOLVE all of the love energy being sent your way. You will actually attract more anxiety, anger, guilt, and jealousy.

When your partner gives you a compliment? Love energy dissolved. When your toddler cries for extra snuggles? Love energy dissolved. When your dog brings you your favorite sock? Love energy dissolved.

All of the love being sent your way, unless it is a magnificently grand example of someone’s energy, will be stopped by the power of your own emotion.

What can we do?

To put it simply, if you want love, you need to get on the same level as love. It doesn’t matter how many compliments, gifts, social media likes, or hugs are sent your way. Your own energy level will continue to stop, deflect, and dissolve anything that doesn’t match it.

To get on the same level as love, you must first love. In other words, you must love yourself.

It’s easy because you don’t need any books, any money, or a certain person to love yourself. It’s hard because you’re the only person who knows what you need. All you need to do is ask yourself. And then listen.

–Bri

If this resonates with you, you have questions, or would like to know more, please let me know. I am always looking for more topics to elaborate on.